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While personally speaking, one night stands have never appealed to me, I know of several men who would not mind indulging in a bit of casual sex without any hope or binding that it should culminate in a serious relationship. As a general rule, men do not have too many hang-ups about such indulgences.

There are a lot of women too, who are not keen on getting into any commitment and can agree to this kind of casual sex with their dating partners. There are very heavy chances though, that during your dating life, you will get into a situation, what I term as reverse-payback. This means that while you get mentally attached to a woman who you indulged with, for a quickie, but before you know it, she has left you.

If your sole aim is to have these one night stands, go ahead, indulge, but prepare yourself with a stronger head and a steadier mind. While there are enough women not too keen on commitments, but have casual sex as a mode of having fun, they are essentially however, looking for the same standards from men , as other women : dignity, trust and that magical spark called attraction, except, may be in different amounts.

If you are seriously contemplating to indulge only in these casual sex encounters, you have to hype up your seduction powers: abundance of humor, charm and the ability to tease your way through, so that your plan bears fruit faster.

From a public arena, move quickly to a more private, romantic and secluded place, where you can communicate with her one-to-one. While you move her away from the public glare, pump up your seducing prowess to the hilt. The two should be worked out simultaneously to make that magic happen.

In case you are in a quandary, as to which women to select for such a sexual escapade, the right target are those women who you have an instant chemistry with. Through the right communication, glances, touches, the instant chemistry “clicks” – and you have found the right person.

Please don’t judge these women as “easy” or “cheap” – it is simply that they are “readily available” at that moment. One can’t deny that ever so often we meet such women, with whom just the eye contact, spells instant attraction and we have that butterflies-in-the-stomach feeling from that moment. But beware, such women fall in to the far side of the range – from “super-easy” to super-rigid” – and all along you must have to practice the basic principles of self-discipline and controlled behavior.

How you manage a one night stand depends primarily on your personality and your requirements. There are many instances where a one night stand has culminated in a brief romantic interlude.

Please note that it is indeed hard to graduate from a one night quickie and glide into a steady, trusted and stable relationship. The basis of almost all short to long term relationships is, a far more lengthier period of romancing rather than jumping into frenetic sex.

It is beneficial for you to remember one basic fact: honesty is the best policy, even in bed! While you are in the seduction process, be honest and truthful about your intentions, face up to whatever you are committing – do not glib talk your way through right into her bed or panties ! For the simple reason, lies ultimately don’t take you anywhere. Not only is deception dishonorable, you do get paid back in your own coin, sooner or later. I am not scaring you with concepts of bad “karma” but as an adult, you know that every action you take today, will pave the way for your tomorrow, and many tomorrows.

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Let us view the other side of the coin. What is it that a “Jerk” has, that makes women respond to him better? Even if they are voicing their dissent – nobody treats me nicely! The answer to this dilemma is simple: Jerks exude self-confidence, without even knowing it!

Consider how “Jerks” carry themselves:

1. When he is livid, he makes no bones about it, its all over his face and actions.

2. He hardly cares for the opinion of others. His ego state is at an all time high: I’m OK; rest of the world is NOT OK. Most importantly he does not idolize women.

3. He positions himself and his needs much before anything else. His sole priority is “me”. And talk about rejecting women? They do it faster than a wink!

4. He does not allow people to act rude or cheeky with him.

5. He doesn’t care if actions hurt or insult a woman.

Though it may sound irrational, but it is these qualities of a “Jerk” that a woman sucks up to! It is no wonder then that a “jerk” gets his way around. But a “jerk’s” problem starts right here. He goes to the extremes, thereby appearing to be a selfish, egoistical, coarse individual. There is of course a middle path, but it is essential for you to realize and appreciate why these people emerge triumphant. It is not rare that we hear women refer to such guys as “jerks”, as if they were talking in very derogatory terms about them, and all you Nice Guys go home believing that it is the opposite behavior that women are looking for.

The truth of the matter, when you hear such whining, lies in an amalgamation of two factors:

1. Women voicing their protest, because they can no longer be in the driver’s seat, so as to exercise “control” over the man’s behavior, which they are so used to, and,

2. The guy’s unpardonable “jerkish” qualities

Come to think of it, if it was really true that this alleged “jerk” was so abominable that no woman would touch him with a bargepole, they would not associate with him in the first place. Of course, his aggressive nature is attractive, his selfishness is very macho, and his unrefined, coarse ways are “cute” to women, hence the attraction.

Incidentally, guys who have been dumped by women after being identified as “jerks” are out of my consideration set, because here the woman has validated her opinion by dumping him. I am essentially discussing about men, who women love to date, be friends with, and simultaneously crib about.

An admirable man is a true and honest gentleman, whose manners and deportment are impeccable. So, what are the qualities of a “Jerk” you must learn to avoid being that “admirable” man:

1. Unreasonable and unjustified throwing of tantrums (teach yourself some self-discipline and self-control)

2. Physical or mental abuse

3. Impolite and discourteous manners.

4. Purposefully bringing mental agony and trauma to the woman.

5. Haughty, self-centered and impolite attitude

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I have decided to bring upfront this important aspect of the dating scenario – multiple choices of women that lie ahead of all of us. This should be one of your primary priority area of consideration – because it is under your control if you so decide.

There happens to be existing a bit of dichotomy in this dating game – mostly created by women themselves. For your understanding, I want to break the existing myth – women do not like men dating more than one man. Did I hear someone say - Monogamous?

So many times I have heard some one say something on similar lines:

- This one’s made just for me.

- I knew she should be just right for me

- I know my soul mate, when I see one

- God, help me, I don’t want to lose her

The lists of such exclamations are endless. A man meets a woman, finds her extremely beautiful and desirable, and then goes and spoils it all by idolizing her. He instantly puts her on a pedestal and from then on his entire world revolves around her.

What a waste, what a mistake!

This kind of infatuation and fixation is a sure no-no for women. It kills any sense of excitement and thrill expected to exist in a budding relationship. Let me take you through a discussion, where I analyze WHY you should keep on seeing other women, even if you have your eyes fixed on one.

1. Attitude and confidence – Open other windows

When you are “fixed” or “stuck” with only one woman, you immediately shut out any buffer zone – or the comfort zone, which all of us need, in case something goes seriously wrong. In case she gets you out of her life – you spend the next few miserable months, or even years, thinking what is it that you said wrong, did wrong or hurt her unintentionally. Remember that song of the Beatles – Yesterday? You keep on longing for that single Yesterday.

Since you have pinned all your hopes, aspirations and dreams on one solitary woman, you have lost all your sense of balance and proportion. Our inherent “fear of loss” arises out of the belief that there are “no options” anymore. This is it. The moment you realize – O my God, so many women, so little time, your spirit automatically lifts up sky high. As a natural consequence, you will relax, learn to be calm and collected in your deportment. You no longer fear any one, now, isn’t that a wonderful feeling?

2. Perspective and comparison – Compare, Contrast, Consider

If you start believing that the single woman who you have selected is the end all and be all of life, how are you going to assess her unless you know some other women too? You need to draw some kind of standard parameter guidelines, by which you can weigh the attraction level and find rationality for your feelings. If you have nothing else to compare her with, how will you ever know the millions of alternative behavioral norms that even exist?

3. Perceived value – Women envy, Owners’ pride!

Women go for the Jones’s. Whatever the neighbor (in this case read it as other women) has, I must have it too. Right from jewellery, clothes, perfume to men! A man who is popular, talked about, seen everywhere and goes around with another woman, well, what is he like, is there any chance for me? Make a beeline for him! Join the race. A man who is WANTED. Who you see at the pub is ordinary, within reach. The “unconquered” triggers the killer instinct.

4. The Obsessive Self-destruct – Killing You Softly

Any sort of compulsion results in hasty, unrealistic and destructive decisions. The moment the world of choices open up, you automatically cease to show any compulsive behavior. The essence of this message is that you see and date as many women as there are available, till you meet the most promising one and it should be YOU who take the final call and NOT the woman!

5. Don’t let her feel “tied” down too early

Women hate to be treated exclusively right from the word go. Even if your intention is a temporary liaison, she gets a wrong signal. She immediately concludes that you are intent on a serious monogamous relationship. Now her pace and sense of rhythm does not allow this. The whole episode then becomes full of disharmony.

So the take home is message is this: Keep your options open. Keep all windows open. Date as many women as you like, more so, if you have located the woman of your dreams. Do not over-indulge or spoil everything by idolizing her. To keep her interests alive, see other women. It pays, both in the short and long run.

Tired of being taken for granted? Sick of being taken for a ride? Well, the fault could begin in the way you interact with people. It could well be possible that you start any interaction appearing to be meek, over-polite and faint-hearted; giving the impression to others that this guy can easily be trod upon.

Its time you learn how, where and when to draw the line. It’s always good to appear tough on the outside with a soft core, rather than the opposite. Start firm; loosen later, so that people are abundantly clear that you are truly a no-nonsense person.

Set your own standards of expectations from people. How much of what do you exactly want from people?  One of man’s biggest fears in interacting with others is the “fear of rejection”. But once you make it clear about what values you stand for and what you expect, people start taking you seriously.

They stop messing around with you, your privacy and you life in general. For instance, when a woman hurts your sentiments, say firmly or let her know in as many words that you are ready for such nonsense. Either she amends her ways or let’s call it quits. Even if she quits, she will regard you and leave in grace.

Next important thing in life is to have a mission. An objective, an aim, that you live for, you work towards. This focus in life really sets the balance and does not let even a moment of your life go waste. Imagine the lives of some great men who walked this planet.

How is it that they did not have problems with women? Simply because they were adding value to their own lives and to the world at large, everyday of their lives, through their sole mission. And this focus and aim, truly attract worthy women.

Take some time off for yourself and do a recap of the past, your present and where you want to go. What this life means to you. What are you going to leave behind, when you are no longer there? It’s not difficult to imagine.

You need not climb the Mount Everest, or take a solo engine flight across Atlantic, or for that matter be a great philanthropic soul – create hundreds of hospitals for the poor; its far more simpler than that – like creating a stable and loving family, or taking a step towards eradication of social abuse in your own neighborhood! Believe me; these attributes in a man are simply irresistible to women.

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Some say that Valentine day is just a commercial event that came to live to boost the profits of the business world. Although we tend to buy something special for the love of our life, we have to keep in mind that the real meaning of Valentine day is to honor your sweet heart. Buy her something special. Get your honey the candy she loves. Flowers and jewelry make great Valentine gifts.

Do not forget to buy or make her a card with a special message. But most of all make that day a special day. Go do something fun together or something romantic. Go see a chick flick or take her on a stroll. Candle light dinners are always a success. Prepare her favorite food and watch a movie together at your house. Make the remembrance of your relationship even more special by taking her away from daily life.

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A man is known not only by his character, but the strength of his character; because looks and outer appearance may wither with age – not his core self. And when it comes to dating – it is this integrity that acts as a guide and helps you segregate the right from the wrong.

The strength of your bearing, your values and beliefs will even help you glide over difficult periods of your life. During any emotional upheaval, can you stand up to your virtues and hold your head high? Or will you break down, and become an emotional wreck or a psychic recluse? As they say, it takes nothing to dream but courage to make that dream come true!

Before you even venture out, looking for a dating partner or a soul mate – remember, life is all about marketing the right product to the right market at the right time! Before you market a product, you must look at the product’s positive and negative features and benefits; and its position vis-à-vis competition.

Likewise, imagine you are the product targeting yourself to the market, who are women. Before starting to do that, assess your own plus and minus points carefully. What are your strengths and weaknesses?

What are other competitors (men) doing? What extra should you do to score over competition? Because the market (the women) consists of discerning choosers – who will choose very carefully.

Here is a list of character traits that I admire and I have made for myself. I carry it with me all the time to check and review. It reminds me that the option to stay or go is entirely mine and if I ever meet a woman who can not realize or appreciate these, is the true LOSER and I have not lost anything, by not being with her. Go through the list yourself and put them in your own perspective, if you wish to emerge a WINNER in any relationship:

• Refined, polished, superior taste

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# Music at no charge

If concerts in general would kill your budget go check out and find venues where free live music steals the show. These musical performances can really make the night!

# Game nights rock

Board games will never be outdated. Group dates are fun. Organize board game marathons at your house. Bring your favorite board game!

# Poetry night with open mike

Many bars and also some coffee shops all around the country organize open mike nights dedicated to poetry. These can be very amusing. Put some poetry on paper for your date and get it read at the open mike poetry night.

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Love is another word for dedicating your life to your partner. You do not stray and you stay committed to the end. Love is based on undivided trust and commitment. Promises are made to be fulfilled. Complete loyalty is the essence of a loving relationship.

 
It sounds easy enough, but in reality this feature is often overlooked. It is an eternal promise that can never be adjusted to the wants of the moment. Unfortunate situations should not affect our unconditional love. Wealth and vanity are of no importance to a relationship. Love is the blessing that should be treasured. Life will test all of us.

 
The result for a couple should be a stronger bond. Fidelity is of the highest value. Infidelity is an attack on love for eternity. No circumstances of life should be capable of changing romance. A wedding is a unique decision and contract of love between two people. A loving relationship should not be based on money. Money has no importance so it does not affect our romance.

Changing looks should be disregarded. The commitment of your wedding day is a contract for eternity. Bad luck happens to any couple. It is never a deal breaker, no matter what society considers to be acceptable. Loyalty is constantly under attack. True love survives everything. The best advice for a couple on their wedding day is cherish and love forever regardless of changing situations. Blessings are upon those who are loyal and loving. Never consider infidelity.

The foundation of any relationship is love and being trustworthy. A relationship built on lies cannot survive. Be truthful as soon as you start dating. Loyalty is the ultimate contract that you should not breach. Betraying your loyal partner is the source of a lot of pain. Be the love of your partners’ life forever. There is never an excuse for messing up love. Self worth starts with fidelity and loyalty. Infidelity is the first step towards self-destruction.

The blessing of love is priceless. Do not sin against God by ignoring loyalty. Disloyalty demands immediate repentance to keep the negative consequences to your relationship to a minimum. Truthfulness and loyalty are eternal qualities. Never disregard the essence of love.

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"Making an impression on ladies is a tough business, but a nine-year-old boy has made it seem like a child’s play. Meet Alec Greven, whose book ‘How To Talk To Girls’ is a compilation of dating tips.

The book is being published in Britain just in time for Saint Valentine’s Day.

Greven penned ‘How To Talk To Girls’ as a pamphlet after observing his fellow classmates try their chances with the fairer sex."

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“Concern about the economy is causing many Americans to reconsider their approach to Valentine’s Day. A new survey commissioned by the nonprofit LIFE Foundation reveals that seven in ten (70%) would forego celebrating Valentine’s Day this year in exchange for greater financial peace of mind(1).

Of those Americans who typically buy Valentine’s Day gifts, the current state of the economy will influence gift-giving strategies in a variety of ways. Thirty-nine percent (39%) say they will consider less expensive gifts, 36 percent will focus on more thoughtful gifts, and 20 percent will consider not even giving a gift this year.”

“The main reason to buy life insurance is because you love people and want to protect them financially, so Valentine’s Day is an ideal time to consider a life insurance purchase,” said Marvin H. Feldman, CLU, ChFC, RFC, president and CEO of the LIFE Foundation. “Life insurance helps guarantee that your loved ones will be provided for, even after you’re gone. What a wonderful way to say ‘I love you’ to the most important people in your life.”

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